Sista Big Bones Perspective

Lonliness

2007-05-01T03:15:00.000-05:00

As I watch her pack her luggage my eyes mist. She has been here 2 months, but it only feels like 2 days. I know when she boards that plane tomorrow I will be sick from the heaving sobs coming from my body. I can’t help it. I love her. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I’M GONNA MISS MY MAMA!!!

The loneliness I feel when my Ma is 1,248 miles away is hard to describe. It hurts me to my very core. She is my best friend, and one of the reasons that I smile. No one understands why we are so close. Maybe it is because we grew up together. A 17-year old baby raising a baby…but we survived. And we are extremely close because of our circumstances.

She taught me to always believe in myself, and she pushed me to succeed. But most of all she loved me…and that love has helped me over many a hurdle in my 29 years. There is a line from a Tupac (I love that man) song that says “When your gone I feel a pain so strong deep in my chest,” that is what I am feeling now as I see her bags sitting by the door.

My eyes hurt from the tears; my heart feels empty because I am gonna miss her so much. She told me today, this to shall pass. And I know that in a few days it will get easier…but right now I’m trying to get through the loneliness.

Lovin' a Sista Big Bone

2007-03-08T00:20:00.000-06:00

I want to talk about image for a minute. We live in a world where society, television, and print ads make us believe that there is this "perfect" size that we all should be, especially women.

Being Sista Big Bones is not just regulated to me. The average size woman in America is a size 14, not a size 2. I have only experienced racial discrimination because of the man I married. But, I have been discriminated time and time again, because of my size. The most blatant show of discrimination was during a job interview, where the skinny little peanut head white wafer heffa looked at me like I was some alien. She seemed shocked that they had enough fabric to cover my behind in a business suit. That really bothers me. No, I have not always been a "big girl". Yet, since I have crossed over into the world of plus sizes, I notice that people look at me differently. I can not just walk through the mall eating a Cinnabon or some ice cream without somebody looking at me like she knows she does not need to be eating that. Whateva...I love food...I got to eat...so what you think I'm fat...that is your problem. LOL

The misconception is that people believe that just because you are bigger than what they consider normal that you are unhealthy. But the fact is, some women are naturally big. No matter how many hours they spend in the gym, or how much rabbit food they consume. Some of us will never be a size 8. My aunt is a beautiful Amazon. She is 5' 11, she weighs about 215. She is not flabby, she is toned, but she is still a size 16. She works out daily, and is a vegan. It is just in her nature to be big. I am so cool with that. I love me some me. If you didn't know it I am the president of my own personal fan club. Dawnya is FABULOUS all the damn time. Unfortunately, not everyone has that level of self-esteem.

I want to hear what you think of plus sized women. I want to know if you feel that we are all just fat and sloppy and must not care about ourselves. Men, how many of you have, or will ever date a Sista Big Bones? Ladies, how many of you look at us with pity. Not knowing that we are not weak, miserable beings. Some of us will take your man in a heart beat...not me...I'm a good girl.

Please stop telling us...you have a pretty face for a big girl...or you dress really nice for a big girl. That shit is insulting!! We don't appreciate it...and it's not true. I'm pretty because I come from good genes...and I dress nice, because I like to look good...I make my clothes...they don't make me.

Recognize all Sista Big Bones as women...not as fat girls. We are sexy, alluring, and very intelligent. Let us into your world, and you will encounter the best friend, best lover, and all around greatest person to have on your team.

F.A.B.

2007-02-06T15:52:00.000-06:00

Say you are having a wonderful day, and then it gets better. The day gets better when you run into an associate and start a great conversation. The conversation is good, the person is awesome, but then all of a sudden your conversation partner hits you with some F.A.B. -- Funky Ass Breath!!!

OMG...so I'm at work yesterday talking to one of the employees and then I start to look around because something is smelling like three day unwashed butt! I can't figure out what it is...then I give my attention back to the person and it hits me. It is his funky ass breath. I'm just too through, because no person should walk around with their breath smelling like that. I was like...dude I got to make a phone call. I had to get away from him so that I could breathe in some fresh air. Unfortunately, when you encounter a person with F.A.B. that bad the funk clings to your clothes. So I had to go buy a bottle of Febreeze to get the scent out of my clothes.

Alright..so finally that is over and I can breathe again. Then 2 hours later he calls me to the office to check him out for the evening and the damn office is lit up with that foul breath! People it was horrible!! I was crying...seriously. Then the sad part is he kept talking to me. All I'm thinking is that breath could be classified as a weapon of mass destruction. They just need to put him in a helicopter and have him breathe over Iraq and it will be a done deal. That is how bad it was.

So have you ever had a conversation and been assulted by F.A.B.--Funky Ass Breath? Share your story with me.

Until next time...keep brushing, flossing, and using mouthwash...don't hurt anybody with your breath.

Retail Management!

2007-02-02T01:39:00.000-06:00

Oh my goodness!! Retail management ain't for the faint of heart. I wish somebody would have told me that before I took the dang job.

If you didn't know, i am now gainfully employed. Yeah...it's a great company, been in business for over 100 years. However they are working a sista like a hebrew slave! I swear they must think i have super powers the type of stuff they ask me to do.

Tonight (02/01) was my first night working solo...I had to close the store. Why did my store manager leave me with at least 108 things to do? I wanted to slap him...I'm thinking like dude...u got me fucked up. But of course all I said was....no problem. I am such a bootlicker right now.

At anyrate, my feet are on fire, and I'm sleepy. I just thought I would let you all know that a sista has been working. That is why I have been MIA.

Baby I'm Back!!!

2007-01-28T16:32:00.000-06:00

Baby I'm Back!!! I know you missed me, and I promise never to stay away this long again.

Hey Fam!! Sista Big Bones has been busy! But I'm back, and I have a ton of interesting things to share. So stay tuned...

It's Hard Out Here for a Temp!

2007-01-02T21:55:00.000-06:00

So I decided to take another temp position because I need to support my habit. I love to shop! Charles is pretty understanding, but I know he is thinking, "For someone without a job, she does a lot of shopping."

I only took the temp position because i was told that it was in Human Resources. I need all the HR experience I can get. Well I go to the job...and what do they have me doing? The want me to be a freaking file clerk. This is the same thing that happened on the last temp assignment I took.

Well I did not just spend the last 5 years of my life in school to become a file clerk. I know we all have to start somewhere, and I am wililng to work my way to the top. But there are just some jobs I will not do. Spending 8 hours filing papers is one of the jobs I have no intention of doing.

After two terrible temp assignments I have decided that temping is not for me. It is hard out here for a temp. So I'm just going to find a job the old fashioned way...beating the pavement.

Reflections

2007-01-01T01:31:00.000-06:00

Happy New Year!!

With the arrival of the new year I thought I would take this time to reflect on a few things.

For me 2006 contained many milestones in my life. I never thought I would see the day that I would graduate from college. Yet, that day (May 11, 2006) did arrive, and it was one of the best days in my life. If only my Pop-Pop could have been there to see it. The month of August bought about the biggest change for me. I decided to pack up and move 1,248 miles away from home. It was the hardest thing I have every done, and I am still debating if it was the right thing. I never thought it would be so hard to walk away from the familiar into the unknown.

I figured out this year that my marriage is not perfect, nor will it ever be. However, I'm happy, and that is what matters.

I have encountered some great people in 2006. Some who I plan to know for a lifetime...others whose time has passed. I realized that I can't live the lives of my family for them. They have to make and deal with their own mistakes. I can not always bail them out of trouble...or solve every problem. Hell I got my own set of issues to deal with.

Overall, 2006 was not a bowl of cherries, but it wasn't the pits either.

I would like to take this time to thank each of you for your friendship. May you and your families be blessed in 2007.

My motto for 2007...THE BEST IS YET TO COME!!!

Tasty Tuesday

2006-12-26T11:15:00.000-06:00

Here is a little something other than holiday food to enjoy.

Quick and Creamy Chicken Stew (by Kraft)

3/4 lb. small red potatoes (between 8-10) quartered

2 Tbsp. water

1 Tbsp. oil

1 lb. boneless skinless chicken breasts, cut into bite-sized chuncks

1 can (10 oz.) condensed cream of chicken soup

1/4 cup Kraft Zesty Italian Dressing

2 cups frozen peas and carrots

1/2 cup Sour cream

Place potatoes and water in microwavable dish; cover with lid.

Microwave on High 7 minutes or until for tender. Meanwhile heat oil

in large saucepan on medium high heat. Add chicken; cook 7 minutes or until browned, sitrring occasionally.

Add potatoes, soup, dressing and vegetables to saucepan. Bring to a boil, cover. Reduce heat to medium-low; simmer 3 minutes or until chicken is cooked through and vegetables are heated through.

Stir in sour cream; cook 1 minutes or until heated through. Stirring occasionally.

This has 4 servings. I usually double up on everything because Chalres eats a lot and I want to eat too. LOL. I hope you enjoy.

Merry Christmas

2006-12-25T04:45:00.000-06:00

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

I just wanted to wish my online family a Merry Christmas. I hope that all of you are blessed and uplifted on this day and everyday.

It has been an honor...no a privilege to have each and everyone of you in my life over the course of the year. I will be thanking the Lord for that blessing today.

Eat and be merry!!

Sheletha...forget the diet today!!

Lance...you have a butt whupping coming from me...and u know why!!

Saadia...take a nap!!! I know you need it after last night.

Rich...relax...enjoy the wife and kids...and relax!!

Shai...don't sweat the fact that we are both unemployed...God will provide...did that money stolen from your purse ever show up?

Mercel...u are new to the fray...but keep uplifting us with your art.

Merry Christmas guys!!

Tasty Tuesday Recipe

2006-12-19T19:43:00.000-06:00

Alright fam. Sorry I'm late, but I had a temp assignment today. It was so boring I almost fell asleep. I'm gonna go back, but I won't like it at all. So here is the recipe for the day. It is really good. I got this recipe from an issue of Ebony magazine five years ago.

LOW-COUNTRY BOIL

1/2 gallon water

1 Tbsp. Old Bay Seasoning

6 to 8 cloves garlic, cut in halves

3 bay leave

Cayenne to taste

Salt and pepper to taste

1 1/2 pounds Kielbasa or smoked sausage,

sliced into 1-ince pieces

12 small new potatoes

4 carrots cut into fourths

4 ears of corn cut into thirds

12 small white onions

3 pounds shrimp in shells

1 lemon sliced

Chopped parsley

Bring water to a boil in a large stockpot, and add the seasonins to the water.

Add Kielbasa, potatoes, and carrots. Brign to a boil and boil uncovered until vegetables are almost tender, about 5 minutes. Add corn and onions, and boil 5 minutes longer. Add shrimp and lemon slices, and simmer until shrimp are done, about 3 or 4 minutes. Remove lemon slices. Garnish with parsley if desired.

Personally, I find that this recipe is even better as leftovers. It seems like a lot but it isn't and it doesn't take a long time to prepare. I hope you enjoy it. Add some Hawaiin (i can't spell...sorry) bread for deeping.

I will Post Later

2006-12-19T11:34:00.000-06:00

Hey Family...Tasty Tuesday will be late. I have a temp job today. I will post once I get home.

Insomnia

2006-12-18T22:54:00.000-06:00

I don't know if I can stand another night of not being able to sleep. I am to damn sexy to walk around with all this baggage under my eyes. So I'm reaching out for some suggestions on what to do. The Dr. gave me a prescription sleep aide, but it is highly addictive so I don't want to take it every night.

This is my day...tell me what I'm doing wrong...I need some damn sleep.
9:00 - 10:00 a.m. - Wake up
10:15 a.m. - 1:30 p.m. - On the computer
2:00 - 4:00 pm. - Exercise
6:00 - 7:30 pm. - Cook and eat dinner
9:00 - 11:00 pm. - Relax with Charles
12:00 - 4 or 5:00 a.m. - On the computer, reading a book, watching t.v., playing XBox...every damn thing but sleeping. (And I'm not sleepy)
5:15 - 9:00 a.m. - Toss and turn and get some sleep.

HELP!!!

Tasty Tuesday

2006-12-12T22:49:00.000-06:00

My home biscuit, Sheletha suggested that since our guy Rich (not Lance) has Funny Friday and our girl Lo has Flashback Friday, that I should incorporate some recipes into my blog on Friday. Well I am going to take her advice, however it will be called Tasty Tuesday.

There will be a wide range of recipes. However, I want you guys to participate as well. If you have a good recipe you would like to share, please post it in the comments section.

Easy Feta Chicken Bake

{preheat oven to 350 degrees)

6 boneless skinless chicken breast halves (about 2 lbs.)

2 Tbsp. lemon juice, divided

1/4 tsp. of salt (salt is always optional)

1/4 tsp. black pepper (or white pepper)

1 pkg. (4 oz.) Crumble feta cheese (plain or flavored)

1/4 cup finely chopped red pepper

1/4 cup of finely chopped parsley

Drizzle with 1 Tbsp. of lemon juice

Season with salt and pepper

Top with feta cheese

Drizzle with remaining lemon juice

Bake 35 to 40 minutes or until chicken is cooked through.

Sprinkle with red peper and parsley

Manic Monday

2006-12-12T22:31:00.000-06:00

For years Americans pay into insurance plans believing that when the time comes we will receive the benefits we rightfully deserve. Well I am here to tell you that is a big fat freaking lie. I spent all day Monday on the phone trying to have an intelligent conversation with supposed health insurance professionals regarding my mother-in-law.

I have been going through the ringer with these people for several months now. Even after being contacted by my attorney they are still playing games. It is driving me crazy...because I need to get someone in this house to help me take care of this bitter, wrinkled old woman.

So after playing phone tag with the idiots at the insurance company we finally resolved all of our issues. However, now comes the fun part of finding a home health agency that will work with the conditions of your insurance to come in to your home to help.

Well that was another phone adventure. You insurance pays for one thing, but the home health agencies offer the complete opposite. So guess what...I still don't have anybody to come in and wipe her funky behind. And Lawd knows I ain't the one. This is the reason my mother is going to a damn home. I ain't got time for this bull!!

Needless to say after my manic Monday of phone aerobics I needed a drink. And a drink or two, or eight is exactly how I ended my day.

Did anyone else have a Manic Monday?

How to get Anti-depressants

2006-12-05T17:10:00.000-06:00

Sitting here watching T.V. I have noticed an influx of commercials geared toward anti-depressant medications for people who are clinically depressed. Great...help for those of us who need it.

I think that these commercials encourage some people to over exaggerate their feelings to get their hands on medication. These commercials are telling people exactly where to go to figure out if their symptoms are those of someone who is clinically depressed. Well if they are not depressed they can surely pretend to be when speaking with a doctor. Unfortunately some doctors are passing these drugs out like they are tic tacs.

There should be some serious screening done before this medication is just given out. Anti-depressants don't always make it better. For example a doctor prescribed Zoloft to my 80 year old mother-in-law. Well she has been taking it and it only seems to make her more depressed...or just crazy period.

There needs to be some type of restrictions placed on the amount of advertising dedicated to prescription medication.

2006-12-01T01:36:00.000-06:00

Why Do We Cheat?!?!

Why do men and women go outside of their relationship for companionship. I mean if you don't want to be with the same person, why even get married, or claim to be in a monogamous relationship?

What is considered cheating? Are you only cheating if there is a sexual relationship or could cheating happen by having an emotional connection with someone besides your significant other?

The internet makes getting together with strangers for some no strings attached sex easier. It just doesn't make sense to me. Most of the people that I know that have cheated on their significant other don't want to leave the person, they just want something different. That does not make sense!! You don't get different when u decide to be with one person. And if you want different talk it over with your partner.

I have considered stepping outside of my marriage...Each and everything he pisses me off. However, I realize that it will only cause more problems

I want to hear from you. What do you think makes a person decide to cheat? What is considered cheating? Is cheating acceptable? Is cheating forgivable?

Smell the Sex!

2006-11-09T15:38:00.000-06:00

There is a new invention out that just by smelling a patch will increase sexual desire in women.

Scentuelle is an innovative new product designed to help stimulate the libido. The clear, non transdermal (nothing enters the bloodstream) patch has been impregnated with a unique combination of aromas. Smelling the patch at frequent intervals throughout the day triggers feelings, fantasies and sexual desire.

I do not see how this is gonna work. Unless this patch smells like some of my favorite food I do not see myself getting aroused. Seriously, who wants to walk around sniffing themselves all day. I mean personally if I see someone constantly sniffing themselves I'm just gonna telling they should bath more often. That's just nasty!!

(Sista Big Bones is always stimulated!!)

Sweat in Fat Crevices

2006-11-07T00:25:00.000-06:00

It's your girl Sista Big Bones coming to you live and direct! People, I just left the gym and let me tell you...sweat in your fat crevices ain't no joke!! I'm working out and then I get annoyed by the swishing sound coming from my body. I'm looking at my husband, like what the heck is that. Then I realize it is the sweat in my fat crevices creating music with my love handles.

So now I'm sitting here wiping sweat from the many fat crevices that I possess.

To all my Sista Big Bones, family and friends. Exercise is a wonderful thing...it keeps us healthy and our big bones looking good. I just want someone to invent an outfit that will keep the sweat from creating music with my fat crevices.

Holla if you understand my pain.

Peace

Welcome!! Sista Big Bones in the House

2006-11-06T01:04:00.000-06:00

Welcome!! This is Sista Big Bones! I am creating this blog just for fun! Nothing to serious and nothing to boring. I want to give out information to other Sista Big Bones, family and friends. However, this blog is for everyone. So feel free to chat me up.